One thing that caught my eye in chapter 8 was about office romances on page 223. It talks about how to handle them and how things have changed over time with regards to them. In the past some organizations have forbid them and if a couple was caught, usually the women was asked to leave. Now a days, they are becoming a little more acceptable and aren’t as much as a issue. The books says that they should still be kept on the down low just so that it doesn’t interrupt business. It also says that if the relationship ends that you shouldn’t talk about it at work and try to be nice to the other person. My personal opinion on office romance is torn. I have personally had a relationship where I met someone at work and we dated, broke up, and they ended up quitting their job. I’ve also had a coworker who had dated our boss and that didn’t work out and the person still worked there and it really made things awkward. At the same job I had another boss date someone that worked there and now they are engaged. So it really all depends. It can sometimes work out but most of the time I don’t think it does and it causes a lot of different problems.
Hey Roro! I agree with you on this. I am torn as well about romance relationships in a workplace. I have never personally experienced it so I can't speak for myself. I think it depends on the type of job it is. What I did find interesting reading in the book was that women were usually the ones who were asked to leave. That upset me a little because it seemed sexist. Why would the woman have to leave? I think when a romance is started at a workplace it could make things more complicated. Since feelings get involved sometimes people feel like they should get special treatment and that is not fair. It really just all depends on the type of relationship the two have.
ReplyDeleteFor my chosen concept of the week I also discussed work relationships. After reading your post however I see how work relationships can always start out complicated even if it does work out. In your case you have experienced the many different outcomes already. This will definitely define the way you view work relationships in terms as how they can be conflicting. I’m sorry to hear that your relationship didn’t go well. Do you think that you would ever consider one again? Your experience on working with two individuals who dated where one was the boss was interesting too. I never have experienced this myself but I’m sure there was awkwardness the whole time. Thanks for sharing your experiences!
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ReplyDeleteThis topic totally captured my attention also! Like you, I'm torn about office romance. Personally, I will never date anyone I work with or work around, just to avoid rumors and breakup instances. It was quite interesting to learn that the women were often the one that was asked to leave. I believe, from an organization operational standpoint, that office romance could cause issues such as unfairness and distraction from the job, and when broken up, a lack of cohesion. But on a more personable and humanistic standpoint, you never know if that person your work with or work for is the "one". Like in your examples, there is the good and bad in office romance.
-Rob
I met my boyfriend at our job and there is no policy that says we can’t date however he waited a long time before he asked me out. He said that he was worried about the awkwardness that could come if we broke up but he figured it was worth it. I’m also torn with relationships at work because of the frequency your seeing your partner. My boyfriend and I carpool to work and school I’m just glad we don’t live together. I love coming home to my own space at the end of the day. I do see an increase in agitation towards each other when we hang out to much.
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