I do believe that men and women do use language differently. As the book mentioned the different situations at the beginning of the section about the two guys and girl who are lost and the girl want to ask for directions when the guys don’t, I have been in a similar situation. I was with friends and we were lost and the guys did not want to ask for help, but I had no problem asking for directions. Same thing applies to being at a store. I have been with my dad as well as boyfriend and when we have been looking for something and not able to find it, I find myself always having to ask because they don’t like to ask themselves. Since men and women both use language differently, it can be hard at times to communicate in the way you would expect to. However when a person is talking to someone in the same gender, it does seem to be a little easier to communicate. For example when I have been at work, I can talk to my female coworkers how I normally communicate, but when it comes to talking to my boss, I have to word things differently or communicate with him in a different way for him to understand. I believe it just has to do with gender differences and they way we grow up. In order for different genders to communicate in a way they both think they should, then they should educate themselves on the other person’s gender and their language use. I feel that sometimes conflicts among people could have been avoided if others understood their language differences. I really liked how the book explained the gender languages, because I definitely agree with a lot of it and agree that men and women use language differently.
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ReplyDeleteI also agree that men and women use language differently. There's a reason why so many people joke about how guy's never want to ask for directions when they get lost because they don't want to "reveal their lack of control" and that us women have no problem admitting that we're lost. It's because it's true! One of the situations that I can relate to is the example of the girl who begins a "barrage of questions" as soon as her significant other gets home. It sounds much worse than it really is. My boyfriend and I joke around about it. Every now and then he will say "Do I look like a scientist?!" Because sometimes I ask him bizarre questions that pretty much only an expert would know, without even noticing it. But I can't help but ask all kinds of questions!
ReplyDeleteHey roro, I too have experienced situations similar to the examples that were given in the book for gender communication. It seems that most often males are the ones to do such things as deny asking for help with directions and females have no problem for asking for help to find things in the stores. With that said, I have also experienced males who have female language tendency and vice versa. I think it really has to do with your natural born temperament, upbringing, and culture. For example, I have some pretty sensitive guy friends and guy friends who are easier to talk to than some of girl friends and vice versa. Anyway, I agree that it’s easy to overcome these kind of communication conflicts with the opposite gender if you understand different communication styles. And the book has proven to be very informative and helpful.
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